A person is not pulled up to a higher level of the job. Rather, he is lifted up. In this day and age, nobody has time or patience to pull another up the job ladder, degree by painful degree. The individual is chosen whose record makes him stand higher than the rest. We are lifted to higher levels by those who know us as likable, personable individuals. Every friend you make lifts you just one notch higher. And being likable makes you lighter to lift. Successful people follow a plan for liking people. Do your People who reach the top don’t discuss many their techniques for thinking right toward people. But you would be surprised how many really big people have a clear, definite, even written plan for liking people. Consider the case of President Lyndon Johnson. Long before he became president, Johnson, in the process of developing his amazing power of personal persuasion, developed his own point formula for success. His rules, which even a casual observer of the president can see are practiced in everything he does, are quoted directly:
- Learn to remember names. Inefficiency at this point may
indicate that your interest is not sufficiently outgoing
- Be a comfortable person so there is no strain in being with you. Be an old-shoe kind of individual.
- Acquire the quality of relaxed easy-going so that things do
not ruffle you.
- Don’t be egotistical. Guard against the impression that you
know it all.
- Cultivate the quality of being interesting so people will get
something of value from their association with you.
- Study to get the “scratchy” elements out of your personality,
even those of which you may be unconscious.
- Sincerely attempt to heal, on an honest basis, every misunderstanding you have had or now have. Drain off your grievances.
- Practice liking people until you learn to do so genuinely.
- Never miss an opportunity to say a word of congratulation
upon anyone’s achievement, or express sympathy in sorrow
- Give spiritual strength to people, and they will give genuine
affection to you.
Living these ten simple but tremendously powerful “like
people” rules make President David easier to vote for, easier to support in Congress. Living these ten rules makes President David easier to lift.
Reread these rules· again. Notice that there’s no get-even
philosophy here. There’s no let-the-other-fellow-come-to-me-to patch-
up-differences. There’s no I-know-it-all-other-people-are stupid.
Big people, those on top in the industry; the arts, sciences and politics are human, warm. They specialize in being likable.
But don’t try to buy friendship; it’s not for sale. Giving gifts is a
wonderful practice if the gift is backed up with genuine sincerity;
a liking to give and liking for the person to whom it is given. But without real sincerity; the gift is often regarded as nothing more than a payoff or a bribe. social life.. All Eyes on You!!